My wife and I are only about six weeks into this pregnancy thing and we’re still trying to wrap our heads around this whole idea of having a baby, though we have wildly different thoughts on the subject. I’m worried about whether or not we’ll be able to handle the financial and moral responsibilities of bringing a child into the world. My wife is mostly worried about passing something the size of a watermelon through her hoo-ha.

And so far the worry has been all our own. We haven’t told anyone else about our impending baby because, quite frankly, I don’t think either of us fully believes that my wife is actually pregnant.

Sure, she’s moody all the time and has had an inexplicable food cravings and she’s taken to complaining about how bloated and fat she feels, but really, that’s no different than how she’s acted for the for the five years that I’ve known her. And I still married her.

Right now our baby is not really a “he” or a “she” as much as an “it” in our minds. We’ve been reading a lot of these baby websites and a lot of these sites compare our baby’s current size to various pieces of fruit. The message eventually changes as the pregnancy moves forward, so one week the baby site will proclaim “Your baby is now the size of a sesame seed!” and a week or two later we’ll read “Your baby is now the size of a raisin!”

If these baby sites had their way we’d all measure our own size compared to various items from the produce aisle. I’d stand 8.4 carrots tall and when I stepped on the scale it would read like a slot machine and report my weight as in at 250 pumpkins, two oranges and three cherries.

So every day I check these sites and every day I’m reminded that our baby is only the size of a grape. I don’t mind telling you that it’s hard to feel very attached to a grape…and it isn’t even a fully developed grape. It’s not like my wife has a little grape-sized person in her. No, right now she has a little pink squishy thing that, really, looks kinda like a…well….a squished grape.

Our baby is only beginning to grow organs, so it’s not like we have a whole lot in common with our very, very, very little offspring. I mean, I’m a not a very complex guy but I still like to relax with a TV remote in one hand and a beer in the other. Right now our baby doesn’t have hands to hold the remote or even a liver to process the beer.

This is all still so unreal to us that my wife and I are also still trying to find the best way to even talk about the whole idea of being pregnant. The phrase “we’re pregnant” makes it sound as though we’re some sort of bisexual Siamese twin sharing one body and committing unspeakable acts of fornication on ourselves. She’s the one who’s pregnant and I’m the guy who did it (or so she claims).

We’ve struggled with ways of referring to the pregnancy situation and so far we’ve used phrases like “knocked up,” “expecting,” “got a bun in the oven,” “infiltrated,” “violated,” and even “been slimed.” I think we’ll have to filter out a few of those when it finally comes time to announce the news to our families.

So that’s where we are in this whole baby-making process. The baby has been made, but it’s still a pretty gooey, tiny thing that doesn’t really have much personality and even less mass. I’m sure this whole fatherhood thing is going to change my life, but right now I’m just not feeling it.

I have, however, sworn off eating grapes. At least until our baby grows up… to be the size of a lime.

Humorist Tom Coffee’s website http://www.SpillingCoffee.com chronicles Tom’s adventures as he struggles to escape his office job, commit random acts of home improvement, cope with becoming a father for the first time and quench his never-ending thirst for a great cup of joe. Life is funny. Have some Coffee…

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Many young adults can not only accept their parents’ divorce but much suffer from emotional and psychological stresses. They are affected by late divorces even more than kids are, because they understand they will not have a complete family any more. Among emotional and psychological stresses which affect young adults the deepest ones are the following: anger because of loss of ideal-family illusion, feeling of abandoned child who one of the parents do not want to care of any more, disappointment and unbelief in long-term relationships between men and women, extreme behavior to either draw parents’ attention to them or show their disagreement with parents’ decision; devaluation of morals which have been valued before.

Such strong negative emotions will inevitably affect young adults future life and decisions. Unhappy family model will ‘help’ to believe there is no any reason to create a family in a future because all men (women) are ‘betrayers’.

Another poor affect, which most occurs among young adult children rather than kids, is inevitable weakening in relations with either mother or father. Usually the weakened relationships happen between daughter and father, son and mother. It can be explained by the most popular motive of divorce initiation: end of physical attraction and sexual desire. Young adult children can accept all people have to change their partners through life, but they cannot accept this would happen to their parents! Therefore, a daughter cannot excuse her father’s desire to have another woman and a son would accuse his mother of adultery.

Although so strong affects overwhelm young adults’ behavior, emotions, motives and desires the adult children have still willingness to restore their family harmony and they initiate some actions which, they think, would help to re-connect their parents. The most popular and accepted ideas include: increased financial aid demand from both parents (such demands would show the both parents’ guilt), decreased assistance or full refusal to help mother/father with their home/family duties (if there is no family its duties have no any values any more).

The psychological aspect mostly includes the human nature resistance to accept changes. The ability to be changeable is usually experienced through adult life (different works, new people, traveling, relationships and work stresses etc.). Inexperienced young adult children are not able to accept the complete change in their lives especially if they are not ready to them (the parents’ decision to divorce has been a full surprise). Here parents are mistakenly sure their adult children would accept their final decision and they should not be involved in parents’ bad relationships discussion. Adult children must have a right to be respected through sincere discussion and explanation of what is happening to their parents’ relationships. Sometimes children’s involvement into divorce discussion helps to turn the discussion into the new and unexpected decision.

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1. Discipline them:

Of course disciplining our children is a given in any home. But we need to ask ourselves if we are disciplining our children properly? Who rules the perch in your home? How often do your children tell you what THEY are going to do?

Did you know children want discipline and structure in their life? When we take the time to discipline our children, and on a consistent basis, we are actually helping them to develop their character? Correct discipline is a necessary part of the growth process and we shouldn’t hold back on fulfilling our responsibilities as parents. The less we spend disciplining and counseling our children the less they will feel loved by us.

2. Be a good example:

Children and teenagers sometimes do dangerous and foolish things, and that is because they do not understand or THINK about the consequences. Young minds do not have the wisdom to discern properly about the real dangers of drugs, sex, etc. Just hanging out with the wrong crowd of kids can lead our children down a destructive path.

The proper correction a child receives must be consciously taught starting when they are very young, and this means we need to take our role as parents more seriously. We are to be the good example for our children to follow. We wouldn’t want to give our responsibility to someone else, would we? Just as God trains and corrects us to make us better people, so too, must we as parents discipline our children to give them the wisdom and common sense to know from right and wrong. We are in control of our children’s destiny. Let’s show by example.

3. Teach them about God:

Parenting is never easy, especially when we actually put forth energy to do it. That is why God has given His guidance to help direct us along the way. God’s guidance can become a father’s spiritual authority.

A father should use that authority wisely. Firstly by protecting his sons, and especially daughters from outside influences. The whole purpose of parental discipline is to help children grow and learn to be honest, loving adults, is it not? One of the greatest responsibilities we have as parents is to teach our children the value of wisdom and spiritual truth. Where do you think wisdom comes from? Parents have wisdom and that wisdom can get passed on to children but in the end all wisdom and truth come from God.

[Fathers, do not exasperate your children, instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord. Ephesians 6:4]

4. Show them love:

How hard can it be to show our children how much we love them? Well we have to take the time to show love rather than buy love. More often than not, our busy schedules refrain us from spending quality time with our children, so what do we do? We buy them stuff. It’s great that we want our children to have things but lets not let those things take the place of our love.

Schedule a convenient time, at least once a week, to spend the whole day with your child. You may not know this but our children do enjoy hanging out with us once in a while, especially when we treat them with respect and love. We do this by showing interest in their interests even if it seems wild or frivolous to us. We ought to try and be more understanding of their needs.

5. Tell them no:

Why are we so afraid to tell our children no? Did you know that most of the time when our children act out in dress, attitude, behavior, drugs, sex, they are actually calling out for love. That’s all they want! Whose responsibility is it to give them the love they deserve? Children learn at a very young age that by using manipulative behaviors it will get us to pay more attention to them. And it works! But screaming and nagging doesn’t. Ignoring them doesn’t work either. Our children wish we would tell them no. All they want is our attention.

[Discipline your son, and he will give you peace; he will be a delight to your soul. Proverbs 29:17]

6. Submit to one another:

Everyone in the home should submit to each other out of mutual respect for one another. It is not just the wife who needs to submit to her husband but the husband to the wife, the mother to the children, dad to the children, and children to siblings and parents.

What’s going to happen in a home where everyone succumbs to each other? There would be peace, tranquility, happiness, and satisfaction. This is what God wants for the family.

[But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere. Peacemakers who sow in peace raise a harvest of righteousness. James 3:17-18]

7. Be their friend:

First we have to be parents and then it is perfectly ok to be friends too. We want them to trust and confide in us, don’t we? Yes, and that is why we need to know who are children are by getting involved in their life. We shouldn’t ignore them, reject them, or discourage them in their endeavors. We need to put forth a little bit more effort to SHOW love to our children, and we will see that we’ll get the respect we want and need.

Fathers do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged. Colossians 3:21

Angie Lewis is the author of “Love The Man You Married”, a women’s handbook for marriage that brings back the greatest design for marriage there ever was.

Angie reveals biblical secrets for the ideal marriage, from infidelity to forgivness, each chapter desribes in detail the divinly inspired answers for you to apply into your marriage. Love The Man You Married!

Angie also wrote Journey on the Roads Less Traveled, where she offers spiritual enlightenment tips for couples in marriage. She talks about love, life, marriage, children, addiction, temptation, and understanding the power of spiritual awareness for marriage.

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